Figured it out; his CSAT does the co-dependent model. I'm the president of the non-co-dependents club.
That intuition, I'm telling you, I knew something was off. I know my husband is a better man than he's been acting. Maybe he's not but at least I've figured out why I didn't mesh well with his CSAT & why he's still playing the victim and I'm the perpetrator.
His CSAT is driving me to divorce.
What in the actual hell do I do about this?
No way I'm convincing him his CSAT is doing things all wrong (for us), even more so, because I found her. Stupid me. I'm sure I didn't even know there were different models to heal & recover from when I found her; it was only 3 weeks after dday.